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Resources for Parents of LGBTQ Children

“Mom, I have something to tell you…I’m gay”.
“Dad…I think I am in the wrong body, I think that I am really a boy”.

One of the most difficult and life changing statements a parent can hear is that of their child coming out to them. When your daughter tells you she’s a lesbian or your son insists that God made a mistake and he is really a girl, what do you do? Like a bomb being dropped, this revelation has the potential to tear families apart. Parents often feel scared, angry, confused, hopeless, and very alone. Their hopes and dreams for their children are shaken and replaced with fears of discrimination, AIDS, and stigma. What do you do? To whom do you turn? For parents of the Christian faith, the questions may be even more complicated. What does the Bible say? How will my church react? Will my child go to hell? What does this mean for my faith? How do I respond in unconditional love?

If you are the Christian parent of a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning child and you are looking for help, you have come to the right place! We have several types of resources for you on this page and plan to add more in the future. We would love to come alongside you on this journey. We would love to hear your story, questions, concerns, etc. and provide you with resources that fit your family and faith. Please email Laura at lstatesir@gmail.com.

Learn with other Christian parents –
Parent Conferences

In June of 2014, Unconditional Ministries Inc., The Marin Foundation, and FreedHearts partnered together to present our first ever conference for Christian parents with LGBTQ children. Titled “By Parents, For Parents” the conference brought together Christian parents from all over the country (and even Canada) who are learning to reconcile their faith and their child’s sexuality or gender identity. 

Meet with other Christian parents – Support Groups for Christian Parents

A list of support groups throughout the US that are specifically for Christian parents of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning children. In the support groups on this list you will find other Christian parents who are on the same journey as you, trying to love their LGBTQ children without abandoning or sacrificing their faith. Click HERE to see the list.

Speak with other Christian parents – National Parent List

Often the most helpful resources for a Christian parent with a LGBTQ child is being able to talk to or meet with other parents who are on the same journey. Therefore we compiled a list of Christian parents with LGBTQ children who are willing to listen to, cry with, laugh with, and come alongside other parents. You can call or email parents all over the United States (Canada & even Australia) and ask for advice or simply share your story. Click HERE to see the list.

Some denominations have their own lists of parents that you can speak with. If you are Catholic you can contact a “Listening Parent”. If you are Methodist you can contact a parent from the Parents Reconciling Network.

Chat with other Christian parents – Online Support Groups

Here are a couple of online support groups for Christian parents with LGBTQ children:

Parents, Family & Friends Forum on the Gay Christian Network: This is a Community Message board where you can read about other parents’ experiences without having to share anything about your own. You can also anonymously post your questions and have them answered by other Christian parents with LGBTQ children. 

Just Because They Breathe/Freed Hearts: This private Facebook group is for Christian moms who desire to continue learning how to love Jesus more, while learning how to love their LGBTQ child more fully at the same time. They welcome women at all different points in this journey, from those who JUST got the news and can’t keep their lunches down, to those who are completely comfortable with their child’s orientation, and everything in between. To join, find Linda Mueller Robertson or Susan Cottrell on Facebook and send them a message letting them know that you’d like to join.

FreedHearts Father’s Group: This private Facebook group is for Christian fathers who desire to continue learning how to love Jesus more, while learning how to love their LGBTQ child more fully at the same time. To join, email Rob Cottrell at FreedHearts@gmail.com.

Serendipitydodah for Moms: This private Facebook group is for Christian moms who have LGBTQ kids and want to develop and maintain healthy, loving, authentic relationships with them. It is an extension of the Serendipitydodah blogTo join, email lizdyer55@gmail.com with “FB Group for Moms” as the subject. From Liz: “It is my hope that moms will discover something unexpected in the group  – a friend or two – some helpful resources – a different perspective – love and grace – something that will be helpful and hopeful in their quest to develop a healthy and loving relationship with their LGBTQ kids.”


Stories & Advice from other Christian parents – Online Video Series

NEW!!! Now you can learn from the experiences of other Christian parents from the comfort of your own home. We have created an online video series called “Parent Perspectives: Journeys of Faith with our LGBTQ Children”. In these short videos, Christian parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer children share their personal stories in the hopes that you can learn from and be comforted by their journeys. Watch these videos on our Youtube channel. This month we feature the story of John and Eva, Christian parents of a transgender child.

Blogs for Parents

Looking for some advice? Read our posts written specifically for Christian parents on our Love is an Orientation blog


The Parent Resource Initiative

When The Marin Foundation began to put together this page of Resources for Parents, we realized something. Existing resources for Christian parents of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender (LGBT) and questioning children can be difficult to find and often mirror current culture wars, providing no way for parents to keep their faith AND love their child. Yet every year, The Marin Foundation receives numerous requests for guidance and advice from the parents and families of LGBT and questioning children. Therefore, the Marin Foundation conducted a research study called the Parent Resource Initiative in order to identify the needs of Christian parents of LGBT and questioning children and develop new resources to help them in this journey.

Before we could develop new resources, we needed to hear and understand parents’ stories. Therefore we interviewed and surveyed more than 230 Christian parents of LGBT and questioning children as well as others involved in supporting families. We were looking for a representative sample of parents from all over the United States, of all ages, ethnicities and ranges of Christian beliefs. Whether their child came out to them two days ago or twenty years ago, we wanted to hear about their experience.

Participants were interviewed and asked to fill out an online survey. The interviews generally took one to two hours and were done in person (within Chicago area), over the phone, or through Skype. The survey was online and took about thirty minutes to complete. All information is kept confidential.

We wanted to provide a safe space for Christian parents to share their story without fear of condemnation or judgment. Regardless of their religious, cultural, political, or other views on this subject, we wanted to know what this experience has been like for them.